What is your earliest, most significant or most memorable moment with your father? For some, you can remember these unforgettable moments easily, for others, these are moments that you may continue to long for.
When it comes to music, many can remember the beautiful ballad “Dance with My Father” sang by Luther Vandross, while others might smile and relate a bit more to “Papa was a Rolling Stone”. No matter what the circumstance, it’s important to know that as a child, you had no responsibility for the decisions that were made by adults. This is the same message that we must continue to instill in our children today. Although the divorce rates may be on the rise, and the image of our traditional family system may continue to change, it is now, a more important time than ever to re-establish the importance of fathers in the family.
Although money is essential for food, clothing and shelter, the lack of money shouldn’t keep fathers away from their children. According to the stats, over 3000 youth dropout each day and 71% of high-school dropouts come from fatherless homes. Over 80% of incarcerated individuals come from fatherless homes.
On the positive side, there are many reasons why fathers aren’t present in the lives of their children:
We can continue to offer justifications, but what can we do to break the cycle and foster stronger families and supports for fathers?
It’s also important to remember that Fathers/Dads don’t have to be related by blood. Fathers can be grandfathers, brothers, mentors and friends. Don’t limit the definition of a father. A male’s presence and positive active engagement in the life of a child can affect a child’s life forever. A Dad isn’t defined by a man who makes the child, but rather the man who raises and loves the child with all his heart through it all. Blood doesn’t always make a man a dad, being a DAD comes from the heart.
Fathers we salute you and all you do. We NEED you in the lives of Our children.
For more information on fostering father engagement and empowerment, contact Dr. Ronica at (601) 622-1392 or firstname.lastname@example.org