“Stop holding yourself back and playing yourself down! Stop worrying about how you look and what people are saying. Stop listening to what people are saying and trying to find out if they are whispering about you. Stop waiting for someone to tell you that you are okay or to make you feel special. Life is special! It is a special gift. This is your life! Now take your gift and live it out in the open! Decide today that you are going to live out loud!” – Iyanla Vanzant
People often say, there are two things that are certain – Death and taxes. Taxes, I can’t say for sure, because not everyone has to deal with those; but death on the other hand, that’s a definite. The moment we are brought into this world we start this process called life. Not knowing where it will take us, we have no choice but to go along for the ride, the journey, good or bad, the ups and downs. If you’re reading this post, it’s probably not by coincidence. This might be just what you need at this moment. I don’t know your situation, but I must say I understand pain and the struggle of change. I know that it’s not easy, but I want you to know that you are not alone.
Change is often uncomfortable. Many people are resistant to change because of the fear of what others might say or think, but let’s be real, there will always be someone who will have something not so positive to say. On the other hand, there are also those who will support you. Many times we keep things in and continue with unhealthy patterns that cause physical and emotional exhaustion because we are in denial about our own truth. Deep down we know that the lives that we are living are not a true reflection of the real us. We stay at the job that causes us stress, not because the job needs us, but because we need the job. We might buy things for short term satisfaction or to impress others, but really know that material things don’t make us happy.
When do we become true to ourselves, when is it good enough, acceptable enough for YOU just to be YOU? Why do you continue to use the excuse, I will end this relationship when……. Or, I’m going to quit this job as soon as….. Or, I’m going to start my own business when I save……There will always be excuses why you don’t change, but more important reasons why you should. It’s called internal peace, true happiness, and life.
You can please some people some of the time, but you’re never going to be able to please everyone all of the time.
So, What’s really holding you back? What is keeping you in this place of discontent and unhappiness? Are you going to continue to put it on someone or something else? Or do you realize that the only person holding you back is YOU?
Choose HAPPY! Choose YOU!